Addition By Addition

So much changes in five years.

For reasons beyond but including the pandemic, I have intentionally condensed my universe to my family.

A family since grown in these five years.

A large part of why I started writing was to show what I know. And I took five years off to learn more. And to learn why I have been wrong, a lot.

I’ve learned that going all in is a young man’s game. And that as you get older, as you get the honor of being a husband and being a father, you lose the bravado of being hilt in.

You have to be measured. You have to be tempered. You have to leave margin to survive. You can’t go all in because that suggests a possibility you cannot accept: catastrophic failure.

I’ve learned to accept failures in life. Learned from all of them. And I learned the only failure to avoid is the all in failure. It’s simply not worth it.

And however you define it, it’s likely even then, you will bounce back. It’s just easier as in your 20s. In your 30s, even.

As you grow up and old, you accumulate. Like mileage on an odometer, you rack up. You add up. You multiply. What is not certain, what is up to you, is what you have accumulated. What you have racked up. Your additions and multiplications.

And the best way to sum up these accumulations is by creating a system of meaningful, researched, and mindful investments of your most coveted currencies (time and attention) into specific areas which can return an outsized, asymmetric, reward. In other words, by doing this, you get way more than you put in.

What can do that?

People.

Technology.

Faith.

Hope.

Love.

Actualization.

Most (yes, most) of your investments will fail and that’s ok. People will fail you. Technology will fail you. I hope faith never fails you, but some fall. We all fall. I hope you bounce back.

You will fail people. You will fail technology. You will fail to actualize. And it’s all part of the plan. Part of the long game.

Schools teach us many things that end up being wrong. And the biggest one is that an A+ is 100% right. It’s not. It’s an F.

An A+ is really about 11%. About a one in ten rate of success.

If you’re doing that, you’re doing great. If you are going after the right things. But here’s what most of us cannot compute: You have to fail 89% of the time.

You have to.

Can you handle that?

Do the math.

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